my house is a very fine house, generally, only without the two cats. not tip top by any means, but it's nice. however, even the nicest of houses can use a "once over" when there's company to be had. so, naturally, this is what i did in my situation. to some extent. to whatever extent however, i was somewhat nervous in anticipation of a date that was at my house saturday evening.
and, as in most cases once again, my fears were for the mostly unjustified, because everyone knows what a normal house is normally like anyway. regardless, i have a tendancy that i don't normally notice, or mind, to play the hostess role to the hilt.
without thinking, if there are more than two people coming to my house, i simultaniously take charge and step back to let the rest interact as they will. i organize, prepare, make sure that everyone is having fun, is included, and that the activity doesn't go stale. mostly i watch as it goes, interceeding when necessary and cleaning up afterwards. this tendancy made it very awkward for me when the males of the triple date decided to revolt and put everything away. i was bodily forced to sit in a chair while other people did stuff in my house. i wasn't happy. Just Let Me Clean My House, you FOOlS!!!...but i refused to growl in front of two girls that i didn't know.
this is why we go to somebody else's house most of the time.